Apparently I was just in an "m" sort of mood :) And yes, mostly it takes time.

I have not seen that movie.

When I was younger it was very hard for me to tell the difference between being depressed and being in a situation that depressed me. With everyone insisting the problem was me, I went ahead and secretly saw a doctor who prescribed me antidepressants, which did not make me less depressed in the moment but completely turned off the setting that made me try to always put everyone else's needs ahead of my own. It was disturbingly enlightening.